Self-Care: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Practice It

Written By Brianna Coffey

By Lindsey Lehtinen, MS, LCSW

What Is Self-Care?

Self-care is the intentional act of prioritizing and engaging in activities that promote and maintain your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. It’s not a luxury—it’s a necessity for a healthy, balanced life.

How Can Self-Care Benefit Me?

The benefits of self-care are far-reaching and deeply impactful. When practiced consistently, self-care can lead to:

  • Reduced stress

  • Improved mood

  • Increased self-esteem and confidence

  • Enhanced resilience

  • Better self-awareness

  • Stronger, healthier relationships

  • Improved sleep

  • Increased energy

  • A stronger immune system

  • Higher productivity

  • Reduced risk of burnout

Common Myths About Self-Care

❌ Myth: Self-Care Is Selfish
We’ve all heard the airplane analogy: “Put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others.” It’s not just good safety advice—it’s a reminder that we can’t care for others well if we’re depleted ourselves.

❌ Myth: Self-Care Is a One-Time Experience
Self-care isn’t something you do once and check off a list. It’s an ongoing commitment to daily practices that support your health and prevent burnout.

❌ Myth: Self-Care Takes Too Much Time
Self-care doesn’t require a full day at the spa. Small, intentional acts throughout your day—like stepping outside for fresh air or practicing a breathing exercise—can have a big impact.

How to Practice Self-Care

Try incorporating some of the following habits into your routine:

Engage in activities you enjoy: Reading, painting, walking, or anything that fills your cup. Make a list and schedule them regularly.

Practice mindfulness: Pay attention on purpose—notice what you see, hear, smell, touch, and taste. Try breathing exercises like 4-7-8 or box breathing.

Get enough sleep: Aim for 7–9 hours. Avoid screens at least 2 hours before bed and create a calming nighttime routine.

Connect with others: Social connection is vital for emotional health. Call a friend, video chat with family, or meet someone for coffee.

Set boundaries: Protect your energy by saying no to things that don’t align with your priorities.

Self-Care Ideas

Here are simple ways to start practicing self-care today:

  • Prioritize sleep

  • Get outside

  • Move your body

  • Hydrate

  • Practice mindfulness

  • Connect with others

  • Set boundaries

  • Ask for help

  • Journal or reflect

  • Practice gratitude

  • Listen to music

  • Take a hot shower

  • Create something

  • Pray or read the Bible

  • Attend a small group or Bible study

  • Take a nap

  • Play with your pet

Final Thought

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s foundational. When you take care of yourself, you show up stronger, kinder, and more present in every area of your life.

Photo by Ben White on Unsplash

Brianna Coffey
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